How Endurance can Improve Your Marriage | Pastoral Counseling Series
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The series 'restoring your marriage with God' by Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes delves into the concept of endurance in marriage and life, drawing from biblical teachings and stories. Endurance is portrayed as the courage to face challenges, admit one's own mistakes, and is seen as a path to character building and hope. Biblical figures like Adam, Eve, Noah, Abraham, Sarai, Aaron, and Moses are cited for their challenges and the consequences they faced, emphasizing the importance of enduring hardships and learning from them. The narrative also explores personal acts of endurance in everyday life, such as parenting and personal growth, and the courage required to set boundaries and repair relationships. It discusses the need for motivation to perform tasks leading to overarching goals and introduces the concept of motivational enhancement, which involves choosing long-term benefits over short-term pleasures and managing discomfort through techniques like deep breathing and grounding activities. The importance of distress tolerance in relationships is highlighted, suggesting partners respect each other's coping mechanisms and communicate non-confrontationally. The concept of 'tragic optimism' is introduced, encouraging recognition of progress and understanding resistance to change, while 'traumatic growth' is described as the positive transformation following hardship. The content also discusses the emotional challenges of counseling, the importance of grieving losses, and the concept of 'hardiness' which includes commitment, control, and challenge. A practical exercise using marbles and cups is suggested to gain perspective on the positive and negative aspects of one's life. The mnemonic 'CARES' is introduced to foster emotional intelligence and distress tolerance, emphasizing empathy and validation in understanding oneself and one's partner. The narrative concludes by encouraging individuals to recognize the benefits of their efforts, such as improved sleep or emotional well-being, as signs of progress that can bolster endurance and contribute to personal and relational recovery.
The series 'restoring your marriage with God' by Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes delves into the concept of en