Anger Guilt and Shame | What is The Connection and Tips to Address Them
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The speaker discusses the relationship between anger, shame, and guilt. Anger is a response to a threat and represents the fight part of the fight or flight response. Shame is anger directed at oneself for feeling inadequate or like a bad person, while guilt is anger directed at oneself for a specific behavior or action. Both shame and guilt involve anger towards oneself. The speaker emphasizes the importance of recognizing how our behavior, in terms of guilt, can threaten our self-esteem or lead to potential rejection by others. They provide an example of feeling guilty about taking a break or relaxing, which may stem from societal messages that prioritize constant productivity. The speaker encourages evaluating whether these feelings of guilt are accurate or if they deserve rejection for taking care of oneself. They also mention that shame is anger directed at oneself for feeling inadequate or broken as a person. They highlight the distinction between feeling ashamed of one's core identity versus feeling ashamed of specific behaviors. The speaker suggests that understanding this distinction is crucial for the recovery process, as it affects one's belief in their own lovability and worthiness. They conclude by mentioning that jealousy and envy are also related to anger and may be discussed in a future video.
The speaker discusses the relationship between anger, shame, and guilt. Anger is a response to a thr