Understanding CoDependency and the Drama Trauma Triangle
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The content segments discuss the concept of the drama trauma triangle, also known as codependency. Codependency involves three sides of the triangle: rescuing, persecuting, and feeling victimized. People engage in rescuing behavior for various reasons, such as love for the person they are trying to rescue or a sense of responsibility in a chaotic environment. They may also engage in rescuing behavior out of fear of abandonment or to be loved and needed. However, when their attempts to change the dysfunctional person's behavior fail, they may enter a period of persecution, feeling angry and frustrated. This can lead to feelings of anger, resentment, and hurt. They may express their frustrations to the dysfunctional person, but this approach does not work. As a result, the person with codependency starts to feel victimized and experiences old trauma wounds being reopened. They feel unsafe, powerless, exhausted, and terrified, similar to how they felt when trying to protect their caregiver or previous relationships. In response, they may engage in addictive or depressive behaviors. Eventually, they may feel hopeless and depressed, leading to a period of withdrawal and rest. After some time, they regain some energy and resources and feel a renewed sense of power, which leads them back to the rescuing behavior. The content also highlights that codependency is not solely about the dysfunctional person, but rather about the underlying trauma issues that are triggered by their behaviors. In the process of trying to overcome codependency, individuals may turn the same triangle on themselves, engaging in self-rescue, self-persecution, and feeling victimized. This is because they have learned dysfunctional behaviors from their chaotic past and struggle to set boundaries and be independent. Trauma, especially abandonment trauma, is often at the root of codependency.
The content segments discuss the concept of the drama trauma triangle, also known as codependency. C