5 Signs You Never Formed a Secure Attachment | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Self Help Tips
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The video discusses signs that indicate a person may not have formed a secure attachment. The first sign is difficulty identifying feelings, which is important in a secure attachment where a caregiver helps the individual recognize and label their emotions. The second sign is difficulty communicating needs and wants, as a secure attachment involves a caregiver consistently attending to the individual's needs and encouraging them to express their thoughts and desires. The third sign is having either rigid or weak boundaries, which can result from not having a secure attachment or experiencing abuse or neglect. The video compares healthy boundaries to a house, where only trusted individuals are given access.
The second part of the video expands on the signs of not having a secure attachment. Wide mood swings can be an indication of not having a secure attachment, as children need to learn how to regulate their emotions. Low self-esteem is also mentioned, as individuals who grow up without being able to identify and communicate their needs may start feeling unworthy and unlovable.
The video provides strategies to address not having a secure attachment, including becoming more mindful of one's thoughts, wants, and needs, learning assertive communication skills, reviewing and adjusting boundaries, developing distress tolerance skills, and identifying and appreciating one's own lovable qualities.
In conclusion, secure attachments teach individuals that they are lovable for who they are, help them identify and regulate their emotions, and enable them to set and maintain boundaries while still communicating their needs. The video suggests that a more detailed video on developing attachment can be found at allceus.com/attachment.
The video discusses signs that indicate a person may not have formed a secure attachment. The first