6 Ways to Forgive Yourself for Not Knowing What to Do | Handling Regret
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In these content segments, Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes discusses the concept of forgiving oneself for not knowing what to do in certain situations. She emphasizes that when faced with difficult decisions or traumatic events, individuals often reflect on not knowing how to respond and may hold onto regrets and guilt. Dr. Snipes highlights that hindsight is 20-20, and it's important to recognize that in the moment, it may not have been easy to see all the options or make different choices.
She explores how situations where individuals didn't know how to respond can represent a loss that they blame themselves for, leading to feelings of depression and hopelessness. Dr. Snipes emphasizes the importance of recognizing these losses and grieving them as part of the healing process. She also discusses the concept of decision-making and acknowledges that choices made in fight, flight, or freeze mode may not have been the best, but they were the least unpleasant options based on past experiences.
Forgiveness, according to Dr. Snipes, involves using energy to learn from the experience rather than continuing to beat oneself up. She encourages individuals to focus on moving towards a rich and meaningful life, accepting powerlessness over things that were out of their control, and identifying which parts of the situation were within their control.
Dr. Snipes emphasizes the importance of considering the context and circumstances when reflecting on past decisions and not judging oneself harshly based on what is known now. She encourages individuals to explore why it may be scary to accept that they did the best they could with the tools they had and to stop being angry at themselves for not knowing. Instead, she urges individuals to learn from their experiences and use that knowledge to improve future decisions.
In these content segments, Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes discusses the concept of forgiving oneself for not